It’s how you deal with failure that determines how you achieve success. Idates was my failure: total hoax, a perfectly organized money drain. J4Dating.com was my success: a legit, decent site where I met my soon-to-be wife. The difference between these two places is tremendous. Meeting genuine and compatible women isn’t that difficult on normal legit sites. I met my woman within three weeks of joining. If something repeatedly doesn’t seem to work for some strange, irrational reason, stop using it and move on. This is the lesson I learned on IDates. I learned it the hard way. I wasted lots of money on IDates scam. They may have a handful of genuine people, but it would take years to come across these honest women. The way this scam is organized is: they hire women from third world countries through local agencies and they pay these women for fooling gullible singles, chatting with them and bombarding them with lovey-dovey messages. Needless to say, it leads to nothing but disappointment, wasted money and broken hearts