My mailbox was flooded with generic two-line nonsense messages from people who obviously had not read my profile. I guess these letters are sent automatically to every new member. Then those ladies wanted to chat and never wanted to leave the site and meet. I switched to Seek4Match.com and met a lady within two weeks of joining. I guess I was lucky. But also that site was more legit, I guess with better profile verification and therefore more honest women. It was really different from Jollyromance where I had just been going round and round in circles until I realized that it was total and utter scam.